Daughter in law is wearing my deceased wifes clothes now?

I can well imagine just how you felt when you saw what you did. It no doubt was like a "flash back" of "yesterday" so to speak. You cannot go on feeling this way, & it's not honestly rite to put you in this position. It's just still too much for you to bear. Someone gave them to her at some time no doubt in a well meaning manner. But what it's doing to you is not being fair. I would have a talk with your son & explain to him what it's doing to you to see his mother's clothes being worn in your presence. Either ask him to please tell her NOT to wear them around you, OR IF you'd feel better, ask to have them donated to the Good Will. This is NOT fair to you, you should not be put in this position. Don't feel a bit bad for telling the truth either. You have every rite to your personal feelings...the very best to you...:)