For those who grew up in emotionally abusive families.....?

my dad-left me basically tramautized.....took me a long time to get over it.....right not im basically indifferent and just think of his as a normal individual........had to forgive him and stop hating him......hating him was too stressful and took up took up too much time.......i never picked up the phone when he called....(about 8 yrs ago, when my mother and him got divorced).....so now he doesn.t call......he sent me emails for a while and i sent back short responses......it was my birthday a few weeks ago and he has stopped sending me bday cards (starting this year) im perfectly fine with that......if i saw him today, i would be civil to him....